From: http://kingdomofintroversion.com/
I’m writing this as a male, I welcome introvert females who want to comment, add to, or correct me on this matter.
To begin with, women introverts are rarer than their male counterparts. Or at least, those women considered introverted are still considerably more social in nature than their male counterparts.
I’ve met a few in my lifetime who really fit the description. In general they had a horrible time growing up, same as males, but the nature of their experience was quite different.
Because truly introverted behavior is so unusual in women, it begets some truly nasty reactions. Every pair of parents wants and expects their daughter to be bright, happy, social, and cheerful. Little girls are expected to be pleasing and put a warm fuzzy feeling in everyone’s(especially daddy’s) tummy. Everyone wants their little girl to be a golden girl. Most girls step right into this role with glee and thrive on the attention they’re given.
Yet now that I’ve met introvert females I’ve seen the special treatment and attention girls get has its sinister side. There quite simply is no place for girls who behave differently or who don’t fulfill their narrow expectations. Such girls are thought of us as ‘strange’ and are kept out of sight for fear of shame while sunny extroverts are flaunted. Some parents are understanding, but the introvert girls I’ve known have had at least one parent who reacted negatively to them from a young age.
Most introverted girls tell me that they don’t get along well with other girls, least of all the social hostesses, soccer moms, and sorority girls.
Like men, they endured a lot of teasing from both sexes while growing up.
While introvert men are shut away entirely from the world of romance and relationships, introvert girls just end up in bad relationships because of low self esteem during their teenage years.
Unlike other girls who keep making this same mistake all their lives, an introvert woman’s heart hardens and she learns her lesson quickly. She becomes one of those rare and precious women who isn’t chasing millionaires and movie stars.
Introvert women are much more pragmatic and analytical than other women, more so than most men. They value fairness in a relationship and treasure the quality of a relationship over the material things that can be extracted from it.
While many women speak loudly and rapidly, introvert women tend to speak more slowly and deliberately. They love spending time outdoors and wear less makeup than other women.
They have a deep appreciation for spells of silence and natural beauty.
They are often superb writers with a lot of creativity and flair for describing the details.
Introvert women always amaze me because they basically contradict everything male cynics have said for centuries.
The sad thing is that most of them, even as adults don’t understand just how precious they are.
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